The available partner, the success, the freedom to be yourself and the stable, confident inner world
If you were raised by an emotionally absent, immature or narcissistic parent - you're in the right place
Growing up in a home run on fear and shame, meant you never got the chance to develop a healthy sense of worth, confidence and inner security. Instead of learning how to feel safe, loved and connected within yourself, your developing brain learned, safety and love are not available freely to me as I am - how do I become enough to earn it?
So instead you developed one of the following unconscious, survival identities supported by a network of beliefs about yourself and the world - in response to the constant rejection, criticism and punishment you received for being yourself
keeping the peace, trying to make sure everyone else around you is happy by suppressing yourself to avoid conflict
you learned to raise yourself, be independent, never ask for help and do everything yourself
distracting yourself, eating, addictions, procrastinating, suppressing your emotional world and sabotaging yourself
learning that your worth comes from achieving, that you'll be loved and worthy if you're successful,
Your role was to take care of everyone else, parentified, made to be the adult, wishing somebody would finally show up for you
if you be the perfect person, never make a mistake and hold everything together, then you would finally be good enough
All as an attempt to ensure you were safe, loved and connected to your family around you. Your identity was built around how to survive, rather than live and your nervous system became dysregulated as a consequence, because you never felt safe
At the core of it all? A belief says I'm not good enough or worthy of the love or life I want, so I have to earn it by being somebody else.
Living on constant edge. Unable to relax, overthinking and spiralling in your mind. Worried about what people think of you, monitoring and adapting yourself to how they respond but never able to just fully be yourself. Stressed about the future.
You wake up exhausted, no motivation, ruminating on the past, consumed by the heaviness and weight you feel, negative and numb, unable to be present with the people around you.
feeling like you're not good enough, too much or as if you're fundamentally a bad person and as if you need to fix yourself. That perhaps you're broken, unlovable or simply unworthy. Sabotaging yourself from good relationships and opportunities
You chase unavailable people who never fully choose you and when they do? It turns toxic. You crave a love where you feel wanted, heard, safe and seen for who you are. Where you're adored, understood and safe to be yourself completely. Instead, you're left feeling like you need to prove yourself or earn love.
you have a hard time trusting people, unable to open up or ashamed when you do, feeling scared to express yourself fully, leaving you disconnected. You're wearing a mask - what people see doesn't match how you feel inside. You're isolated, feeling as if you don't belong or like nobody really sees you.
you know where you want to be, but it feels so goddamn hard trying to get there. You're trapped in a wave of just getting up, surviving and getting through with no energy left to pursue your hobbies or dreams. It feels fundamentally impossible to have the life you want or left thinking maybe it's just not in the cards for you
All because these survival identities, beliefs and nervous system adaptations have never stopped running the show
And what's worse, is you've probably tried everything under the sun to heal and at best, you've gained awareness but you're left wondering, now what?
Which is why adult children of absent, immature or narcissistic parents need a different approach to their healing
All the unconscious beliefs, survival identities and nervous system dysregulation has never been resolved - at best, understood.
So of course talking it out for months never left you better off
Of course somebody just listening to you never changed anything
Of course all the different techniques you've tried to use have never created lasting change
You've never actually done something to address the problem at the unconscious source and changed the state your nervous system exists in!
By using a psychosomatic approach to your healing which is what I specialise in you can finally
Attract an available, healthy relationship where you're chosen, safe and feel deeply loved
Live at ease, deeply peaceful, feeling optimistic and motivated to live your life
Attract a community of people who love you for who you really are
Feel free to finally move forward with the energy to create the life you have always wanted
Become who you authentically are without the fear or shame keeping you small and scared to be yourself
Because you're finally releasing the unconscious beliefs you learned in childhood, that keep you trapped in a mind and life you can't escape
You're pulling the nervous system out of dysregulation to create an inner security and calm, that's not dependant on the world around you
You're actually resolving the past pain, rather than analyzing it and building an inner freedom to live without the fears, blocks or resistance holding you back
E.F.T is a clinically assessed psychosomatic therapy, with over 300 peer reviewed studies and 30 years of global development - not a woo-woo manifestation trick.
It works by regulating the nervous system, to feel safe enough to come out of survival and relax but to also release the unconscious beliefs fuelling your patterns, problems and pain whilst moving suppressed pain through you to create a new baseline of relief, peace and calm
Which is why by the end of the first session, clients are already feeling a shift.
Because it's actually doing something to change the problem
I was raised by a narcissistic mother and absent father - I know what it feels like to struggle with anxiety, depression and issues with my self worth - impacting my relationships, finances and sabotaging my dreams
I tried talk therapy for years looking for answers but nothing ever helped. I was still struggling. I had dreams, ambitions and hopes and at 19, I was crying in my room wondering what happy people were doing different. That question changed it all ...
Now I've gone from fighting for my safety in court from an abusive relationship, struggling emotionally and suffering with poor mental health to loving being alive, accomplishing six figure businesses, success as a travel influencer, an amazing safe and healthy relationship - to now running an online company impacting people all across the world .
All with the power of E.F.T - which is the psychosomatic therapy I am trained and accredited in through E.F.T international. I have worked in 8 countries, impacted more than 20,000 lives and have built a community of over 2000 people
All sessions conducted via google meet, you'll be redirected to a booking page if you purchase 10 sessions. Please check availability in the calendar above first.
No times available? Email ronan@arbeewellness.com to see where I can make a time for you
For years I braced for something to go wrong every single day. Three months in, that bracing has quietly switched off. I didn't know life could feel this light.
I spent my whole life apologising for taking up space. That voice in my head that said I was too much - it's just gone. I can finally hear my own thoughts.
For the first time in my life I actually feel safe in my own body. The constant anxiety that used to run my days just isn't there anymore.
I stopped chasing people who couldn't love me back. Ronan helped me see why I kept repeating the same patterns - and then we cleared them for good.
Twenty years of overthinking, gone in months. I sleep through the night now. I never thought that was possible for me.
I finally understand that I was never the problem. Working with Ronan gave me back my self worth and my life actually reflects it now.
I came in carrying grief I'd never said out loud. Ronan held space for every piece of it. I laugh again now - properly, from my belly.
The panic attacks that ran my twenties just stopped. It wasn't willpower - we found what was underneath them and cleared it. I still can't quite believe it.
I used to walk into every meeting waiting to be found out. Now I speak first in the room. My colleagues have noticed the difference before I even told them what changed.
Thirty years of putting everyone first, gone in a handful of sessions. I said no to my family for the first time in my life last month - and the world didn't end. I did.
The anger that was costing me my marriage doesn't run me anymore. My wife says she has her husband back. That's worth more than I can put into words.
Burnout had me convinced I was broken. Turns out my nervous system just needed someone who knew how to reset it. I sleep, I rest, I actually enjoy my work again.
Most clients find that to resolve one problem, six sessions is a great spot. However, I always recommend preparing for ten because each person is a unique case
When you book your session you'll receive a google meet invite. All you have to do is click on the link at the time of your appointment and I'll be waiting for you
I encourage clients to meet weekly for the first six weeks and then reassess as our time together evolves and we see changes. Some clients meet three times per week and some meet once. We can arrange what's best for you in our first session